sister support

[rlg]

I didn't feel this belonged on this thread, but thought it would be viewed more here than on the support/condolences thread. Anyway, I have an older sister who is having her second child in February-a little girl. This is bittersweet since my younger sister has been trying for years to have a child with no success...yet. She is still young, but very discouraged and taking our older sister's pregnancy very hard. She made the remark that she didn't know what she was going to do when the baby arrived in Feb.
I would like to have a little something for my older sister-an intimate little dinner/shower with immediate family only-maybe a couple of close aunts, but I don't know how to do that while still being sympathetic with my younger sister. Birth is a blessing that we see everywhere and my younger sister will encounter her entire life, but that doesn't make it easier for her-perhaps harder when you feel that everyone has what you want. Anyway, I felt like I would get some advice here. Let me know if you have been me or one of my 2 sisters. Any advice on how to handle this?
Thanks!

[Mari']

I would try to involve her in the planning because I feel that would help her to open up and work through her feelings.

[Christi Wharton]

I agree with involving her in the planning. She needs to learn to be happy for others even though she is still waiting. Being an Aunt is very special. Both of my sisters and my step-sister have children and I do not. I am now 46 and don't plan on having children at my age but I love being able to be a great Aunt.

[Licia]

Your sister may need to talk to someone to put things in perspective. Like it was said before, she needs to learn to be happy about someone else's success even if it is something she can't have. I realize this is a very sensitive subject for her but there are many girls/ladies in her position. We all have to do this to some degree, but in other circumstances - some family members have different things that we don't have and we have some things they don't. I hope you can say the right things to your sister to help her overcome this. She may get pregnant yet. I know many who had given up only to have children they never could have hoped for. I really feel for your sister but for her own sake, she must learn to handle this or it could be a big stumbling block for her.